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After almost 17 years of marriage I realize I can not change my husband but I do question some of the things that he does and does not do. I have started doing more things geared for raising our 6 kids (15, 13, 10, 7, 4, 8mos) such as taking different types of parenting classes. My husband who is disabled and stays home with the younger kids disagrees with this and tells me they are not necessary just do what the bible says and spank them. My kids are afraid of him, don't talk to him and want nothing to do with him. My kids are involved in activities in the community (football, cheer, scouts, youth groups) and I have to take them to these activities as well as go to any parent meetings at the schools etc. When I ask for help he huffs and puffs and tries to think of ways for me to do it all. He even wants me to take the little ones to work with me which is OK once in a while since I work at a pregnancy resource center but he wants me to do it all the time. He has even stopped doing things around the house (helping with household chores, taking care of his dogs). I don't want to divorce because I don't believe in them but something has got to change. I don't know what to do anymore. I need help. I am even getting to the point where I can't talk to him because it just goes in one ear and out the other. I can talk to my kids more than him.